Getting a divorce is one of the most stressful things you’ll likely experience in life. Finding the right divorce attorney can either make the process much easier (or way worse).  Stakes are high and prices can be even higher.  When searching for a divorce attorney, you want to make sure you’re getting a good fit for you and your case. 

Many Americans (if not the majority) don’t have a lawyer on retainer. And, depending on your own personal experience, this may be the first time you’re looking for a lawyer, let alone working with one. This article is all about helping you find the right divorce lawyer to take on your case: let’s be honest, it’s a critical decision to make now that you’ve decided to get a divorce. 

First, look for someone that you want to work with. You don’t have to like your lawyer, but you do need to trust them and trust that they will be real with you. The reality is that divorce is never going to result in you getting 100% of what you want. Remember, there are multiple parties in a divorce and it is by its very definition a negotiation. A lawyer that you trust to be a straight shooter and can provide accurate advice is a key component of a successful divorce. Trust me, you want someone that will be real with you—even if it hurts.

Another key factor to consider is experience and specialization. Don’t be fooled–family law is definitely not intuitive. It can be complex, and you want an attorney who focuses on divorce cases specifically. (In other words, asking your best friend that works as an in-house counsel at a tech company to facilitate your divorce may not result in the best outcome due to their lack of experience in family law). Ask about their track record with cases similar to yours and how long they’ve been practicing family law. An experienced attorney is more likely to navigate complicated issues like child custody, asset division, and spousal support effectively. They will also be able to help you navigate the complexities of the Alaska Legal System to handle things like filing the correct forms, working with the courts, and negotiations with opposing counsel. 

Communication is also critical. Divorce cases can move quickly, and you need a lawyer who responds promptly to your questions and keeps you informed about case developments. Ask potential attorneys how they prefer to communicate and how often you can expect updates. It may also be worth asking how many other cases they are handling simultaneously.

Next, consider your finances. Lawyers are expensive (even the ones that aren’t expensive). Some common things to look for include:

• How much is the hourly rate?
• What work will be done by the attorney/attorneys vs. support / paralegal staff?
• Who exactly will be working on your case and how is work delegated?
• What is their retainer?
• Can they quote you an average price for a divorce?

Obviously divorces can be expensive and it’s important that you know exactly what you are getting into and what the working relationship will be with you and the team. Also, make sure you confirm that the lawyer you want to work with is the one that is actually going to be assigned to and working on your case!

Finally, trust your instincts. While credentials and experience are important, it’s also essential that you feel comfortable with your lawyer. For example, do you prefer someone of the same gender as you? Someone with a similar background? Someone your age? You will be sharing sensitive information and relying on their guidance during a challenging time. If something feels off during your consultation, it might be worth exploring other options.

In conclusion, finding the right divorce lawyer requires a balance of honesty, transparency, experience, and communication. Take your time to research, ask questions, and trust your gut. The right attorney can make a significant difference in the outcome of your case and your peace of mind during the process.